Let’s be honest—there’s nothing quite like that first time with someone new. The anticipation. The teasing. The slow striptease of conversation that ends with her in your bed, legs wrapped around you, eyes locked.
But then it happens. You barely get going before your body betrays you, and boom—done.
If this sounds painfully familiar, you’re far from alone. Around 1 in 3 men struggle with premature ejaculation, and honestly? It doesn’t make you any less of a man. But it does mean it’s time to learn some control—especially if you’re with a woman who expects more than a quick cameo.
- Stop Thinking of Sex as a Race
No woman worth her salt is impressed by a man who treats sex like a 100-metre sprint. And no, there’s no gold medal for “fastest finish.”
Take your time. Let the heat build. Explore her body with your hands, your tongue, your words. The more time you spend on her, the more relaxed you become… and the longer you’ll last when the main course arrives.
We reached out to One Park Lane Models and spoke to one of their high-class london escorts, Livia, who put it beautifully:
“The clients I enjoy my time with the most are never the ones who rush. They take their sweet time, touch deliberately, and know how to drag out every second. When a man takes his time, I don’t want the night to end.”
Tease, tease and tease. Then tease some more.
- Start Doing Kegels
Think pelvic floor exercises are just for women? Think again.
Strengthening your PC muscles—the ones that control ejaculation—can dramatically boost your stamina. They’re the same muscles you use to stop mid-pee.
Do short sets daily: tense for 3 seconds, release. Repeat 10 times. Do it discreetly while you’re making coffee or on the train. No one will know… until they’re moaning your name for longer than usual.
- Learn the Art of Delayed Gratification
You know that moment when you feel it building and think, I can probably power through this?
Don’t.
Instead, stop. Breathe. Change rhythm. Kiss her. Pull out and whisper something filthy in her ear. Let the wave pass before you start again.
This is called edging, and it’s basically orgasm control 101. The more you practise stopping just before the point of no return, the more control you’ll build. And trust us—when you finally let go, she’ll feel the difference.
- Forget Porn Pace—Find Your Rhythm
Porn stars last longer because they’re acting. You’re not. So stop trying to mimic the jackhammer pace and find a rhythm that keeps you both turned on and in control.
Try this: three slow thrusts, one deep, two shallow, pause.
It sounds silly, but switching patterns confuses the part of your brain that’s screaming finish now—and gives her body new things to respond to.
If it feels too good, slow it down.
- Pick Positions That Give You Control
Let’s be real: some positions are made for fast finishes. Others? Built for endurance.
Try these for staying power:
Spooning – Slows things down, keeps it intimate.
Woman on top – She sets the pace while you catch your breath.
Sideways grind – Less depth, more connection.
Avoid anything too intense if you’re trying to hang in there—especially deep doggy or missionary with her ankles on your shoulders.
- Pick the Right Condom
Yes, condoms reduce sensitivity—and in this case, that’s exactly what you want.
A slightly thicker condom, or one with a numbing agent, can be your secret weapon. Some high-end options even come with warming or cooling sensations that shift your focus and prolong your performance.
- Pre-Game the Main Event
Here’s a cheeky trick from the pros: masturbate a few hours before your date.
It takes the edge off and gives you more control later. Just don’t go wild—one session is plenty. Anything more and you risk showing up with a very relaxed libido.
It’s Never Too Late to Start Training
No one is born a sex god. Stamina isn’t some magic trait—it’s a skill. And like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and perfected.
Whether you’re with your girlfriend, a new partner, or that pretty girl from the bar, the aim is the same: mutual satisfaction, drawn-out pleasure, and sex that feels like an experience—not a countdown.
Get it right, and she won’t be forgetting you anytime soon.
